Why is love so complicated

by shiningsunnyday, Jun 13, 2017, 8:08 PM

So it's the 2nd day of Ross and I was taking a break from my p-set and getting some shots up at the gym courts (I had to purchase my own membership since Ross didn't offer gym access this year to make us do math 24/7 -_-).

Since I had just lifted weights for about 45 mins (first time for almost 2 weeks) my arms were kind of strained and I was relying a lot on my lower body to shoot.

Then suddenly, she appeared.

Walking besides the perimeter of the court, the Sun traced out a beautiful silhouette onto the gravel ground, a figure I first encountered 2 days ago when I coincidentally bumped into her outside and talked to her for the first time. She had delivered a vibrance that entranced me from the outset, a kind of energy that I loved. I had pulled out a few tricks from the book and made her laugh, but I hadn't garnered up the courage to find her again after with the exception of a few awkward glances in the elevator once.

As I reminisced, I suddenly realized behind her loomed the devil in the picture - a companion, a boy. As they talked besides each other, suspiciously walking in a direction that is probably their mating spot, my mind fueled with rage. I needed to give it to 'em.

I lowered myself, set up myself with a few between-the-leg/behind-the-back dribbles. Then I spun off a quick behind-the-back dribble to my right, pivoting off my right foot for the spin and floating to the right. I raised up, shifted my body to the left in midair perfectly, and swished the midrange jay.

Filled with prowess, I turned to receive my encore.

She didn't even look, and they continued on their way. I can only watch as my palm of sand slipped through my fingertips.
Being the competitive and accomplishment-driven person I am, it would best make sense if there could just be a winner-gets-the-girl basketball tournament. Whoever beats all other potential mates gets the girl. Simple. Straightforward.

Instead, we live in this mating reality of infinite variables - everything from body expressions to conversation topics to the weather that mysteriously decide whether two people generate a spark for one another.

In fact, I've always come to wonder how my interests have developed (mathematics, basketball, Kpop). I've come to realize, as I was shooting today, that many of the hobbies we choose to have are a response to the complications of this world.

Many people who do sports do so because it allows them to play a game with defined rules and hierarchy of respect, an escape so-what for the world that we live in, where nothing comes as a guarantee.

I love basketball due to my fascination with how a simple put-the-ball-in-the-basket game has evolved into a global market that attracts millions of young boys and girls to not just play the game, but draw inspiration from it.

I love Kpop because of the way I'm amazed by how one performer can take the spotlight with everyone's eyes on the performer.

In fact, video games are the epitome of this idea - the reason why games are addictive is because it sets up an alternate reality that still maintains enough complexity for the gamer to lose themselves in it while removing the complications of reality. There's always a goal to achieve, and every response is associated with a feedback (i.e. leveling, getting more coins, getting more weapons) that makes the gamer believe they're improving.

Now in the 21st century, society has become so complicated that it's truly hard to accept and interpret all the different factors that govern whether you succeed or not, that sometimes it's just nice to remove all distractions and focus on one specific task at hand.

I'm not saying I don't accept reality for how it is, but I just like to think about these things.
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suspiciously walking in a direction that is probably their mating spot
is this the most accurate wording :huh:

by PiDude314, Jun 13, 2017, 9:09 PM

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SSD getting girls is easy iff you become physically fit and look good. Sadly I'm none of those things but I don't need to be yet. What about you?

by First, Jun 14, 2017, 1:13 AM

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this is false @first

by wu2481632, Jun 14, 2017, 1:30 AM

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@first, agree with wu2481632.

by SantaDragon, Jun 14, 2017, 5:06 AM

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Many people who do sports do so because it allows them to play a game with defined rules and hierarchy of respect, an escape so-what for the world that we live in,

woah, what about basketball where ppl are like "the ref is biased!!" and all

by cjquines0, Jun 14, 2017, 9:56 AM

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@First

why do you think all girls are so shallow? If you want to "get girls", then the foremost thing is being a kind person and not thinking that they owe you anything because you're nice to them (aka respect). yeah there are some that only care about appearance but that's certainly a small amount and those girls aren't worth it anyway.

http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2013/02/top-qualities-single-men-and-women-seek-in-the-opposite-sex/

so yeah men are actually WAY more appearance oriented than women.

now a couple of general tips for any readers.

tip #1: if you are someone who calls yourself a "nice guy" but then complains about girls not wanting to date you after you compliment them or have a couple of nice conversations, you're probably not going to get many girls.

tip #2: if you are someone who consistently judges girls by appearance but then complains about not being good-looking enough to get girls, you need to stop.

sorry if this seems a bit rude i'm just tired of seeing this constant narrative.

Tips taken :) thanks so much
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by qwerty733, Jun 14, 2017, 11:54 AM

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Leon Alberti wrote:
no art, however minor, demands less than total dedication to excel at it.
This is one of my favorite quotes and to get girls you need to be totally dedicated to it. Also if you want to be world-class in it, you'll need $10,000$ hours and $10$ years of deliberate practice which makes sense since getting girls is complex and you can't deny it, plus that's how long attractive celebrities spend at their craft before they're at the top.

I don't think you can consider this an "art" - which involves working on your craft and honing your skills to mastery. Here there's no set definition of what's considered mastery or the "best" when optimizing your traits to get girls (since girls look for different things in guys and some will not like you no matter how hard you try due to personal reasons/preferences).
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by First, Jun 14, 2017, 12:43 PM

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@First,

You can't approach it in a formulaic manner though. Humans are complex and every person is different. You can't calculate relationships and emotions like you do with science or mathematics because there's so much variability and uncertainty in human interactions.


@SSD,

When I think about your point on video games, it's kind of frightening. With new technology such as virtual reality being developed, people are going to eventually enjoy alternate realities so much that they'll never want to experience actual reality.

I don't rly have a problem with that in the future - the whole point of spending the effort to make these things is to up the human experience, so why not?
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by Mathaddict11, Jun 14, 2017, 5:36 PM

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again first if such an algorithm for getting girls existed g_u would have already implemented it

by wu2481632, Jun 15, 2017, 3:07 AM

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But then we'll be living in a world like The Matrix :(

by Mathaddict11, Jun 15, 2017, 6:37 PM

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The Matrix was a scary move(not in the typical way but in the fact that computing power could actually be used to simulate reality) and I if there's an algorithm to not get girls(never see a girl in your life from now on) then there should be an algorithm to get girls.

by First, Jun 17, 2017, 12:15 AM

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from a girls perspective:

yeah I personally like guys who are fit obviously better than those who arent

be nice to me and polite courteous

no swearing bad language

be pleasant and don't make fun but be encouraging

dont make your move too fast


idk these tips might help you. depends :)

nice! :)
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by Swimmer2222, Jun 18, 2017, 2:40 PM

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Might as well drop my 0.02$

I don't think you should attach too much importance to "getting the girl". I believe it is less about your personal "skill level" (however you'd measure that), but more about finding an actually proper match. Think about it, you could be the most "skilled" person in the world at getting girls and use those skills on someone who is not compatible and you will still end up unhappy. So why attach so much thought or importance to something that is so, uh, useless? I have a feeling that you'd get bored really quickly if you end up with someone you successfully charm, but with whom you cannot connect.

On the converse, I believe that you will have no problem being happy once you find the right one, or one of the many "Mrs. Rights" there are for you in this world. Don't worry about it now, you're like, what, grade 11? If you were approaching the 30 year mark I'd start worrying, but that is clearly not the case...

Problem is I really don't wanna miss out when my Mrs. Right comes - I've missed too many opportunities before that I feel things aren't just happening cause I'm not putting myself out there y'know. Of course there's still a long way to go but building a nice foundation early on as a prospective mate never hurts.

Also since when did this become a relationship advice post.
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by InCtrl, Jun 18, 2017, 3:41 PM

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hwat are you talking about

I have a general obsession with one girl, you seem to have one with all girls in general

not helthy man u should reflect upon your life mentality

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