if your crush doesnt do this, they dont like you.

by flec, Mar 5, 2024, 5:07 PM

lots of people on blogroll seem to be confused lately
so i'll give you telltale signs
for the title

you can take them both ways

if they do this--they probably have a good chance of liking you, and if they don't, then they probably don't. of course, nothing's confirmed.

this applies to shy people, too. so don't be delulu and be like "nahhh... they're just shy." delulu is not the solulu. being able to move on quickly after being knowledgeable is really important so you don't waste time on people who are obviously not right for you, if you get what i mean.

in general
  • waits for you after class. this can or cannot be subtle. they can look back at you and slowly pace themselves while you pack your bags to align with you. if they're more extroverted, they would probably be comfortable walking next to you and starting a conversation. if they're shyer, they might linger a little bit or look back at you. either way, this can apply to a friend, but if it's someone you're been talking to and see potential in and vice versa, trust your gut.
  • texts you back quickly / texts a lot in general / initiates conversation. especially shy people--they tend to not be able to talk about themselves, their hobbies, or insecurities well in person, but they will probably be more open with it from text. if they also talk about themselves and ask about you, that's a good sign. talking about themselves is already a pretty clear sign, but if they don't ask about you as well, i take that as a red flag. just me though it's different for everyone, but in general if someone does like you they will be sharing about themselves and will want to get to know you as well.
  • trust the subtle signs. a person who likes you will probably laugh more, walk with you to your classes (even if they don't make it obvious), or look at you a lot. i don't mean "omg he looked at me once he likes me", but if you're sitting in lunch or class for example and they're talking with their friend and then they look over at you, you might have a chance. of course, you can never trust a one-time.

girls - since i'm a girl and have girl friends and i've been both shy and extroverted, i think i can do well on this accurately
  • text you back / keeps conversations going. as a shyer person, i have trouble initiating conversation if you haven't done it back, but if you start a conversation, i'll probably text you back and keep the conversation going. ex. if you ask about my hobbies, i'll probably add in a little "wbu?", but if i don't like you as much, i'll probably end it with a "yeah."
  • i don't know if this applies to all girls but during lunch i tend to walk around with my friends a lot. if you see me walking towards your table and back or detouring to where you hang out, i probably like you. same with other girls a lot.
  • fixing hair / makeup / etc. if they're in a class with you and you see them doing this when they used to not, you might have a chance. of course this is very general and a lot of girls do this, but if you see them doing it when they used to not, they might be thinking of you.

boys - since i'm a girl and i have no idea, i'll just say some telltale signs my crush did that let me know
  • he listened to me and little details. we were talking about having pets and he said, "you had hamsters, right // he remembered my birthday // i remember that i had you in a class three years ago". he also listened to small things.
  • likes social media posts. self explanatory
  • talks about hanging out with you / future. it doesn't have to be like, "are you free at 8 for dinner", but it can be more like "yeah. i love to drive. i'll take you for a ride one day." even shyer guys do this if they really like you, trust me.
  • looks at you a lot. also self explanatory
  • calls you / wants you to play games with him / talks to you late at night. a lot of guys have video game hobbies. if they ask you to play with them sometimes or asks to add you on gaming aps or talks to you late at night when they're usually gaming/homework/doing other things, they probably like you more.

don't completely trust this list--especially the guy section, because i'm not a guy and my crush is probably different than yours--but i'd say it's pretty credible. just because they're not doing everything on the list doesn't mean you should be panicking, but if they do nothing, that might be a sign to move on. if you're a guy and you see anything you want to add or disagree with or anything, feel free to tell me. same with if you're a girl, or anything. everyone's signs are different and i probably left out a few.

don't take this as discouragement also. it's really essential to be aware of your crush's feelings for you so that you don't waste time on someone who doesn't think of you the same way.

you deserve better, right? i didn't add this on the list because it's like, not a sign, but a guy/girl/anyone worth going on a date with is one who is willing to take initiative, talk to you, and convey their feelings effectively.
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interesting...
me personally im too shy to actually talk to people so i just stare at them oops
(some ppl whove liked me did the same skull)

by purplepenguin2, Mar 5, 2024, 5:12 PM

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yeah staring's a big one. c'mon pp2 you should take some initiative! trust me, guys love it when you do, and i think you'll feel really confident, proud, and satisfied, too! i actually asked my crush to hang out before he did, even if he did start most if not all of the conversations. as a person who's pretty shy unless you get to know me better, i definitely feel you, but it's really worth it to step out of your comfort zone, especially for someone you care about if you get what mean.

by flec, Mar 5, 2024, 5:16 PM

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@above oops real maybe i should
(but then im so bad socially that i even struggle with that in my friend group :skull:)

by purplepenguin2, Mar 5, 2024, 5:20 PM

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i can give you advice if you want it! i used to be superrr shy as a kid so it's actually a part i feel comfortable talking on hahah i promise i don't usually like to offer unwanted stuff :) i know not all want to, so if you just wanna talk that's great. what i'll say is that i really like talking to you and reading your blog posts online, and i think you'd be fun to talk to irl too!
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THIS IS SO CUTE?
im so proud of u flec and i hope ur relationship goes well
u deserve the best <3

also i think alot of these r reliable
one of my friends who later confessed showed the same signs in the guy section
we still friends since i told him i wasnt comfortable dating yet
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by addyc, Mar 5, 2024, 5:56 PM

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what if he looked surprised and exclaimed I was looking at him quietly and happily when I glanced at him? Does that mean something?

by blair_givenchy, Mar 5, 2024, 7:16 PM

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oops i dont do any of these to my crush lmao

by Turtle09, Mar 5, 2024, 7:24 PM

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ahh sad that cause i go to online school i cant tell where hes looking or if he would wait for me after class if we went to school irl
plus i dont have social media except for snap and disc smh
but we text every day a ton and have had the red besties badge on snap for like 3 wks now?
and he fsr keeps convos going even when it seems like theyre dead
and he rmbs things and talks abt the future like "we should meet up sometime" and "one day imma be a world famous violinist and ill give u free tickets to my concerts lm-o"
also he compliments me kinda a lot?

but like other than that theres nothing so i kinda feel like im being delulu

by madeleinelee, Mar 5, 2024, 10:08 PM

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this was interesting..

maybe try making one for the people who have online school or homeschool?

by CrochetLover, Mar 5, 2024, 10:13 PM

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help i think 2 girls like me
HELP

by dbnl, Mar 5, 2024, 10:37 PM

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ok slay advice
but like he isnt even from my school so um
the end of my l rizz crush story <3

by CC_chloe, Mar 6, 2024, 12:10 AM

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girls talk to me becasue they think i'm gay :thumbs_up:

by zlrara01, Mar 6, 2024, 12:39 AM

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LOLLL

welp i guess this is good unless the gurl
1) isn't allowed to put on make up in most classes
2) doesn't use makeup anyways

by grokr, Mar 6, 2024, 1:17 AM

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i was tryna look good today because obviously i love to see my crush while looking good and then he was like "...you tried? well, i hate girls who wear makeup" i was like "YOU GUYS CAN'T EVEN TELL" then he said "yes i can" so i said "am i wearing makeup?" and he said "no" :skull: ok but i like him a lot soo

by flec, Mar 6, 2024, 1:34 AM

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omg that sucks
but also so funny though

by grokr, Mar 6, 2024, 1:39 AM

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he also told me i have no rizz and i don't get the guys :') like that crap made me overthink whether he really does like me

by flec, Mar 6, 2024, 1:41 AM

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eh maybe hes just tryna hide his feelings
bc based off what i said my crush now things im aroace lmaooo

by Turtle09, Mar 6, 2024, 1:42 AM

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help what if someone is shy and fits the signs in general (as in general general signs - not limited to the ones up there), but doesn't fit any of the ones under "guys" since we don't talk at all?

by Helena_Liang, Mar 6, 2024, 1:50 AM

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Thanks flec

by SapphireDolphin9, Mar 6, 2024, 3:14 AM

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@helena that's tough. i really think my #1 part on the boys section is definitely super essential. not just even as a sign that someone likes you, but if someone you like doesn't do this, i feel like it's not worth it. it's like basic respect for me for others i care about (family, friends, boyfriends) to remember my birthday, pet peeves, or other things. i do think that if they do all of the general signs, it's pretty good. however, the main difference between the general and the boys part is that the general part, friends could do, too. like all of my friends do the general signs, but they probably won't care to remember that i had two hamsters in 2020 and that one was silver and the other was white, if you get what i mean.

@turtle09 i can't stress this enough i know you mean that as like more of a joke but jesus christ dude GO for her it's definitely not good if she thinks your aroace because she'll try to get over you then even if she did actually like you. trust me, girls LOVE it when you initiate. just text her, talk to her, or give her little compliments. a little bit goes a long way

@blair like i said, you can never trust a one-time because it could be purely coincidental, but if he does that often along with other signs, it could be a chance.

by flec, Mar 6, 2024, 5:44 AM

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honestly like for guys
u dont need to be "fine"
if u want a girl u js gotta make them fold
from my experience atleast
at first it might seem weird
but over time it'll prolly make us blush

or its js me

also dbnl major rizz

by addyc, Mar 6, 2024, 2:19 PM

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@addy /shrug honestly i mean i won't know because my guy's actually cute (at least to me hahah) but yeah if they make you laugh from my past experience from liking ugly guys yes if they are nice i like em

by flec, Mar 6, 2024, 3:46 PM

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calls you / wants you to play games with him / talks to you late at night. a lot of guys have video game hobbies. if they ask you to play with them sometimes or asks to add you on gaming aps or talks to you late at night when they're usually gaming/homework/doing other things, they probably like you more.

accurate

by aayr, Mar 6, 2024, 7:30 PM

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erm yeah I agree the only problem is...
I don't do most of these things for my crush
who's not even in my class anyway

by AceCard, Mar 6, 2024, 11:49 PM

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Mmm I'll see how much of this applies to super introverted me. I'm homeschooled though sadge.
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lots of people on blogroll seem to be confused lately
so i'll give you telltale signs
for the title

you can take them both ways

if they do this--they probably have a good chance of liking you, and if they don't, then they probably don't. of course, nothing's confirmed.

this applies to shy people, too. [insert tigeryong here] so don't be delulu and be like "nahhh... they're just shy." delulu is not the solulu. being able to move on quickly after being knowledgeable is really important so you don't waste time on people who are obviously not right for you, if you get what i mean.

in general
waits for you after class. this can or cannot be subtle. they can look back at you and slowly pace themselves while you pack your bags to align with you. if they're more extroverted, they would probably be comfortable walking next to you and starting a conversation. if they're shyer, they might linger a little bit or look back at you. either way, this can apply to a friend, but if it's someone you're been talking to and see potential in and vice versa, trust your gut. welp none applies I'm homeschooled.
texts you back quickly / texts a lot in general / initiates conversation. especially shy people--they tend to not be able to talk about themselves, their hobbies, or insecurities well in person, but they will probably be more open with it from text. LOL yeah look at me on Xarcade vs me in person. I can't even hold eye contact with any of my friends for more than a second. if they also talk about themselves and ask about you, that's a good sign. talking about themselves is already a pretty clear sign, but if they don't ask about you as well, i take that as a red flag. just me though it's different for everyone, but in general if someone does like you they will be sharing about themselves and will want to get to know you as well. I can share a lot about myself but honestly when I ask about someone else... well, you know that scene in Goblet of Fire where Harry asks Cho to the ball? Yeah, that's what I'm like while talking to other people. "eryeahIliketodothatdoyou?"
trust the subtle signs. a person who likes you will probably laugh more, walk with you to your classes (even if they don't make it obvious), or look at you a lot. i don't mean "omg he looked at me once he likes me", but if you're sitting in lunch or class for example and they're talking with their friend and then they look over at you, you might have a chance. of course, you can never trust a one-time. That's so true lol.

girls - since i'm a girl and have girl friends and i've been both shy and extroverted, i think i can do well on this accurately
text you back / keeps conversations going. as a shyer person, i have trouble initiating conversation if you haven't done it back, but if you start a conversation, i'll probably text you back and keep the conversation going. ex. if you ask about my hobbies, i'll probably add in a little "wbu?", but if i don't like you as much, i'll probably end it with a "yeah."
i don't know if this applies to all girls but during lunch i tend to walk around with my friends a lot. if you see me walking towards your table and back or detouring to where you hang out, i probably like you. same with other girls a lot.
fixing hair / makeup / etc. if they're in a class with you and you see them doing this when they used to not, you might have a chance. of course this is very general and a lot of girls do this, but if you see them doing it when they used to not, they might be thinking of you. Flec's blog: The dating advice centre.

boys - since i'm a girl and i have no idea, i'll just say some telltale signs my crush did that let me know
he listened to me and little details. we were talking about having pets and he said, "you had hamsters, right // he remembered my birthday // i remember that i had you in a class three years ago". he also listened to small things.
likes social media posts. self explanatory
talks about hanging out with you / future. it doesn't have to be like, "are you free at 8 for dinner", but it can be more like "yeah. i love to drive. i'll take you for a ride one day." even shyer guys do this if they really like you, trust me.
looks at you a lot. also self explanatory
calls you / wants you to play games with him / talks to you late at night. a lot of guys have video game hobbies. if they ask you to play with them sometimes or asks to add you on gaming aps or talks to you late at night when they're usually gaming/homework/doing other things, they probably like you more.
I would legit be like "hey you wanna play FTW or smth" RIP my social skills.

don't completely trust this list--especially the guy section, because i'm not a guy and my crush is probably different than yours--but i'd say it's pretty credible. just because they're not doing everything on the list doesn't mean you should be panicking, but if they do nothing, that might be a sign to move on. if you're a guy and you see anything you want to add or disagree with or anything, feel free to tell me. same with if you're a girl, or anything. everyone's signs are different and i probably left out a few.

don't take this as discouragement also. it's really essential to be aware of your crush's feelings for you so that you don't waste time on someone who doesn't think of you the same way.

you deserve better, right? i didn't add this on the list because it's like, not a sign, but a guy/girl/anyone worth going on a date with is one who is willing to take initiative, talk to you, and convey their feelings effectively.

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